Etiquette Wednesday: Shoes and Uncomfortable Q's

Q: Is it rude to ask guests who come into your home to take off their shoes and leave them at the door? I want to keep my new hardwood floors from getting ruined.

A: Not if the occasion is informal and you explain your reason. Since guests might be surprised by the request, though, it would be a good idea to offer rubbersoled slippers to anyone who feels she or he might be uncomfortable or cold not wearing shoes. If you’ve invited guests to a dinner party or otherwise fairly formal occasion, however, I wouldn’t ask them to remove their shoes-unless it’s a cultural custom your family observes. If you’re really that concerned about your floor, I’d wait to invite people to your home when weather permits outdoor entertaining.

Q: Several acquaintances have put me and my husband on the spot since we started looking for a house to buy, asking us the price of homes we’re considering and how much we plan to put down. We feel uncomfortable sharing that information.

A: You’re not alone! Although some people do ask and tell all, most others prefer to keep their personal finances private. And you should not feel obligated to answer such questions, whether you’re being asked about the cost of your jewelry, your salary, or your house. But even if you’re annoyed by the questions, don’t be rude in return. If you don’t want to answer, try a little humor: “The place we loved cost an arm and a leg, and we don’t want to give up lunch for a year.” Or throw out another question in response: “Why? Have you found the perfect house for us?” You can also change the subject: “Even more than the price, I like the neighborhood’s two excellent schools.” As a last resort, take the direct approach: “I’d rather not talk about it. I hope you understand.” They’ll undoubtedly get the message.

via Emily Post.

Pugs & Kisses,

Dawn