Q: Friends are planning to visit us for a week, and they’ve informed us that they’re bringing their dog. I’m not crazy about dogs, and my husband’s concerned about the lawn. Is there a polite way to tell them we’d rather they come alone?
A: Sure. The fact is, it’s impolite of guests to ask – much less “inform” – hosts about pets being included in visits. When the stay is for one week, versus one or two nights, it’s all the more inappropriate.
You and your husband have a right to say no, but do be as diplomatic as possible, saying, “We so look forward to your visit, but we must be honest in telling you that we feel uncomfortable about having Fido. We have to ask you to leave him at home.” You can give a reason: “Dog hair seems to jump-start my allergies.”
If you feel like being more accommodating, you can offer some alternatives: “We’ve found a nice, nearby motel that allows dogs” or “There’s a great kennel in town.” Talking it through often results in a viable solution for all.
via Emily Post.
Pugs & Kisses,
Dawn
Good advice, Dawn! I have gone to family functions where people brought their dogs without asking permission first. People would always say something about it (yet never TO them), sadly... Family communication: Well, that's a whole other issue, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteI have had a very similar experience, except my friends showed up at the door with their dog! We had not lived in our house very long and our house is a pet free house at the moment because of my husband's allergies. I tried to be as diplomatic as possible, but our friends insisted on bringing the dog in. Needless to say, we haven't been as close since because the wife was offended that I didn't shower her dog with kisses.
ReplyDeleteWhat I never understood was that we had discussed the issue previously and she had said that she would never bring her dog down unannounced.........